Wednesday, April 23, 2008

Why Beautiful Women Marry Less Attractive Men

Ahh the age old question. You see a drop dead gorgeous gal with a mediocre looking guy and you wonder (woman and man) “how did that happen?” There are of course the easy stereotypical reasonings- oh he has money, perhaps she is a high class call girl? But people, maybe for women looks just aren’t everything. Okay, forget the maybes, women definitely aren’t sold on looks alone. But there may be a strategy to that as well. Here’s an article I spotted on my favorite source- Yahoo News, about it. I just cut and pasted the most interesting parts but you can read the full article here http://news.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20080410/sc_livescience/whybeautifulwomenmarrylessattractivemenews.yahoo.com/s/livescience/20080410/sc_livescience/whybeautifulwomenmarrylessattractivemen
Jeanna BrynerLiveScience Staff WriterLiveScience.com Thu Apr 10, 11:25 AM ET
Women seeking a lifelong mate might do well to choose the guy a notch below them in the looks category. New research reveals couples in which the wife is better looking than her husband are more positive and supportive than other match-ups.
The reason, researchers suspect, is that men place great value on
beauty, whereas women are more interested in having a supportive husband….
The new study, published in the February issue of the Journal of Family Psychology, reveals looks continue to matter beyond that initial attraction, though in a different way.
Supportive spouses
McNulty's team assessed 82 couples who had married within the previous six months and had been together for nearly three years prior to
tying the knot. Participants were on average in their early to mid-20s.
Researchers videotaped as each spouse discussed with their partner a personal problem for 10 minutes. The tapes were analyzed for whether partners were supportive of spouses' issues, which included goals to eat healthier, to land a new job and to exercise more often….
A group of trained "coders" rated the
facial attractiveness of each spouse on a scale from 1 to 10, with the perfect 10 representing the ultimate babe. About a third of the couples had a more attractive wife, a third a more attractive husband and the remaining partners showed matching looks.
Trophy wives
Overall, wives and husbands behaved more positively when the woman was better looking
The finding "seems very reasonable," said Dan Ariely, a professor of behavioral economics at MIT's Program in Media Arts and Sciences and Sloan School of Management. "Men are very sensitive to women's attractiveness. Women seem to be sensitive to men's height and salary," said Ariely, who was not involved in the recent study.
In couples with more attractive husbands, both partners were less supportive of one another. McNulty suggests
wives mirror, in some ways, the level of support they get from husbands.
"The husband who's less physically attractive than his wife is getting something more than maybe he can expect to get," McNulty told LiveScience. "He's getting something better than he's providing at that level. So he's going to work hard to maintain that relationship."
Men who are more attractive than their partners would theoretically have access to partners who are more attractive than their current spouses, McNulty said. The "grass could be greener" mentality could make these men less satisfied and less committed to maintain the marriage….




I found this article to be sad but true. We women may desire our Brad Pitt/ Terrance Howard look-alike but who wants the upkeep and constant worry that they'll find somebody hotter? I just don’t feel women get that “grass is greener” mentality. And the thought of “I can do better” when it comes to looks might appear early on in the relationship but it surely doesn’t stay. Because we ultimately know that a good looking bum won’t get us anywhere! But an “average” (because aren't looks in the eye of the beholder?) guy who is supportive is the best thing in the world!

4 comments:

Diva's Thoughts said...

Very interesting. I have to ponder on this one awhile. I'm pretty shallow when it comes to looks so my fella has to be good looking. Hmmmmm.....

Anonymous said...

Its one of those things that i think are obvious but its nice that science gets around to it.

The way i put it is that women can date up but marry down and men marry up but date down.

Im a man and dont really want to settle down but if i get a woman that is a notch up id be a fool to mess around.

A woman can mess around all she wants with guys that are out of her league but if she wants to settle down she has to look for somone a step down, she is very confused by this because "I date a lot of hot guys but they are all jerks" Ha, i hear it all the time, im not surprised. belive me tehy are jerks becuase of you, let them meet somone they consider better than them and all of a sudden they are not jerks.

now that i have shown myself to be a total pig.... i might as well go anonymous.

CC Solomon said...

Thanks for your honesty and for acknowlging that your thoughts are very pig like! =) But I guess it's real...

Lady Dulayne said...

As a gorgeous woman myself ;), I've always been more comfortable being the more attractive one in relationships thatn my man. Not that I date trolls or anything but I think the woman should always be more beautiful.

Here's my theory on it. In situations where the man is clearly the better looking one, he often knows it and knows he can do better and what his other options are. The woman in that case would have to break her neck to keep him happy and coming home to her.

In the case where the woman is more attractive, usually the man knows, hopefully appreciates and will do what's necessary to keep her. And I'd much rather have a man that wants to keep me than the former.

I think the best relationships are ones where the man absolutely adores his woman (and she back) and where he feels she is the best he's had and will get than the man that knows there's more out there.

P.S. Can we kill the word verification yet? I end up trying twice.