Wednesday, October 31, 2007

I'm Tagged!

I got tagged by the Girl from Park Heights...The rules of the game are:A). Link to the person that tagged you and post the rules on your blog...B). Share 7 random and/or weird facts about yourself...C). Tag 7 random people at the end of your post and include links to their blogs...D). Let each person know that they've been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

Don't know if I have 7 random or wierd facts about me and don't have 7 blogger friends yet so I guess I can do less.

1) I hate most white foods (and no I'm not racist)- mashed potatoes, milk (unless with cereal and then only a small amount), white bread, mayonaise, vanilla ice cream (unless mixed with chocolate candy or cookies)- yuck
2) I've been writing since I was 11 years old and my sixth grade teacher thought I had real talent. I even pinned a play that some kids in my class put on.
3) I love the movie alien now but was terrified of it up until a few years back but being a horror fan i so wanted to see it. So i took baby steps, i first watched it bit by bit (the unscary parts), then watched the whole thing on mute (sound effects were too much for my heart) and then i could watch it fully normally and now its nothing.
4) I love Anime (otherwise known as Japanese animation). I may just be one of probably 5 black women in the country who actually watch it. But I've been hooked ever since I was little from Speed racer reruns, salior moon and Inuyasha. I've seen too many to count. I don't like the kid stuff though like Pokemon.
5) I hate chick flicks (never seen Titanic). I think they give us false hopes. Romance isn't like that and we want it to be so when its not our hopes are let down. And then whose in the wrong- the realistic guy or the dreaming girl (good blog topic).
6) I mostly deceided not to go into Criminal Law because of the movies Cape Fear and Primal Fear- who says movies don't effect real life? All I'm saying is Robert Deniro and Edward Norton scared the hell (and love of law) out of me. Suddenly civil rights law seemed the way to go. But excellent movies
7) I'm about the same weight now that I was when I was 13. Either I was fat then or I'm thin now. I prefer the latter and then there is the fact that I haven't grown in height since 6th grade either.

Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Take the Lead

So okay, it's 2007, the feminist movement has been in effect for a while, Sex in the City ruled supreme so with that, really, do men want women to take the lead in the dating scene? Guys do you like it when a woman approaches you in a club or ask you out? Ladies, are you up for that? I'm see-sawing on the whole thing. I used to bask in the sun with the knowledge that all women had to do was say yes or no to a guy who approached them. But the older I get, the more sucessful/educated I become and the smaller my dating pool becomes I am begining to think I need to take the proverbial bull by the horns and make the first move.
But fellas this is tough on a female too. Guys turn women down. Women fear rejection too. And with todays impossible standards on female beauty, the shot to the ego that rejection can bring I say is stronger than what a male has to deal with. Especially when women don't go soley by looks but hone in on personality and background (hello Jay-Z, Jermaine Dupri, Russel Simmons, Forest Whittaker, Chris Rock and a host of others didn't get beautiful women from their killer looks). And the men have it easy. They are outnumbered by women and an average guy can get an above average female so men can be picky.
So with that said, I'm of the opinion that women asking men out is a lot tougher than the flip side. Why can't there be a middle ground? If I drop a smile at a guy, can't he come the rest of the way and start the dialogue? And if I do go up to a guy, what does that guy think of me- that I'm like Samantha from Sex in the City, a little loose? Or even simply that I'm a bold assertive chick? But what if I'm none of these and simply am eating my nerves at that moment to get what I want, will he lose interest when he finds I'm not that bold in real life? And what hints does a woman get from a man that he's interested to let her know to make a move? Women smile, touch, pay close attention to guys we dig. What do men do?
Sigh, sometimes I wish we were in the days of Jane Austin (minus the slavery and repression of course) and just did courtships. Leave the hard work to the elders...